Piles of grading have prevented me from blogging this week, but I did manage to finish this racy devotional for Our Daily Journey. It seems particularly appropriate given the winter storm that is burying us. If you’re single and snowed in, there’s always Scrabble.
read > Proverbs 5:1-23
Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? (v. 15-16).
The glamour magazine in my mechanic’s office flaunts numerous articles about sex. One story, meant to be especially titillating, recounted the exploits of men who made love to multiple partners at once. The article left me sad. These hollow thrill seekers are not just looking for love in all the wrong places, they are looking for love in too many places.
The best sex is exclusive. The act of sex is the closest we come in this life to imitating the love of our triune God. God is a community of self-giving lovers: a Father, Son, and Holy Spirit who literally interpenetrate one another. Theologians ground this mutual indwelling on Jesus’ words that “you are in me, Father, and I am in you” (John 17:21), and they remind us that when we become one with another body we reflect the God who made us in his image as male and female (Genesis 1:27).
Popular love songs get it about right. Sex is “Almost Paradise.” It is “knocking on heaven’s door,” for the delight of this physical union echoes the flourishing love of our triune God. This is why Proverbs instructs married couples to “reserve [sex] for yourselves. Never share it with strangers” (5:17).
When we spread sex around we cheapen ourselves, reducing the climax of our human experience to nothing more than a rutting animal. When we selfishly use another person for our own physical pleasure—renting their body rather than owning and being owned by them—we forget that the deepest joy comes from giving ourselves completely to the one person who has given themselves to us.
Any animal can have an orgasm. Only humans can know the bliss of being loved by one other—of being naked and vulnerable and still embraced. And that is simply divine.
more > Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth….Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love (Proverbs 5:18-19).
next > In light of this theology of sex, explain why God hates divorce and any sex that occurs outside the covenant of marriage. If you are single, what can you do to honor God’s plan until you find a life partner?